Moving Day

I have spent the past week moving my practice to the firm of Frazer, Ryan, Goldberg & Arnold (See my webpage at

Everything about this move is positive – I will continue to be able to provide the same Elder Care Law and Life Care Planning services to my clients, while also being able to offer them the other services that the firm provides, including complex estate planning, tax planning, representation in tax controversies, probate litigation and mental health law.  I will have an outstanding team of legal assistants and paralegals to enable me to provide my services more effectively, and I will have wonderful  colleagues with whom to confer.  And the staff of Frazer, Ryan could not have been more helpful in finding and contracting with a mover, transferring my data and moving all of my files. My pictures are on the wall, and I can’t wait to get started tomorrow morning.

As positive as this was, it still created some stress.  Did I pack everything that I needed, and dispose of everything that I could?  Did I get a little overzealous on that score and throw away things I should not have?  Did I notify everyone of my new address, or make sure that my mail and messages would find me?  And will I find friends in my new location?

If I have those nagging concerns about a move that I chose to make, and could accomplish on a timeline that I established, imagine how our loved ones feel when they leave their homes to move to a new location.  This applies not only to a move from one’s own home to a care facility, but also the move from one’s hometown to the city where their children live, or from one care facility to another.  Even when the person is able to make the decision, and be fully involved in the process, it can produce anxiety and a sense of loss.  And if the person is suffering from dementia, the sense of displacement is even more severe, and can cause a rapid decline in the person’s cognitive skills from which he or she will not fully recover.

Despite these challenges, moves are often necessary to make sure that our loved ones are safe and receiving the care they need at a price they can afford, or in a facility that will accept public benefits.  However, when planning these moves for our family members, we need to be sensitive to the challenges and do whatever we can to make sure they feel comfortable and secure.

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